What You Need to Know About Love Addiction

How do you feel when you’re not in a relationship? Have you ever felt the fear of being alone or rejected? Do you lose interest in things you enjoy when you enter a relationship?

A growing body of research is starting to show that romantic love can be addictive. Love addicts are addicted to the rush of that initial romance, but never develop to what love truly is – presence, intimacy, and support.

Love addicts mistake the intensity in a relationship for the intimacy of true love.

This results in relationships that have emotional highs, like intense passion, and emotional lows, like intense disappointment or heartbreak.

Love addiction is an inability to become vulnerable and bond in healthy ways with others. It is a way people cope to protect themselves from difficult emotions like shame, fear, and depression.

Because love addicts may undervalue themselves, they typically end up assigning too much time and value to the person to whom they are addicted.

It’s important to recognize love addiction because, just like with other addictions, love addicts can experience withdrawal symptoms when their addiction is taken away.

The withdrawal from love addiction can be devastating at the end of a relationship. Any stress from love addiction can also lead to poor work performance, depression, or neglecting self-care.

Don’t let love addiction keep you from forming the relationship of your dreams! Recognize the signs and learn how to take care of yourself so that you can avoid the pain that love addiction can cause you.

While you may relate to some of the above at least occasionally, love addicts have a consistent pattern of these signs. In a relationship, love addicts will find that their capacity to take care of themselves declines.

Recovery from love addiction requires specific steps to take care of yourself. Since love addicts tend to overvalue their relationships and undervalue themselves, it’s important for them to learn to build their confidence and take care of themselves.

If you feel like you might be susceptible to love addiction, focus on your overall well-being.

When you take care of yourself, you will find the healthy love that encompasses the presence, intimacy, and understanding you deserve.